Time after time we are told that honesty is key, but yet no one really wants to hear the truth. The truth is too mean sometimes. Being too honest makes you bitchy. Not to throw men under the bus but, woman can’t be honest to men without being called bitches. I’ve been straight forward with men before and I have been called a ‘bitch’ among other things. When I get messaged on Facebook and I either tell the guy I’m not interested or I ignore it and they proceed to tell me that they wouldn’t date me anyway or I’m probably ugly anyways”. What’s wrong with being straight forward with someone? Why is this such a big deal? If I tell you I’m not interested I’m not trying to hurt your feelings, but I’m trying to be honest with you. Would you rather someone string you a long when they weren’t even interested in the first place? Probably not. So what is it about honesty that people are so afraid of?
In our society we are basically taught that a white lie is okay if it saves the other person from being hurt. Even though the truth can really hurt sometimes, I would rather know the truth than be blind to it. You don’t gain anything from being dishonest. Maybe you won’t be hurt, but the pain from the truth doesn’t last long. In the past I have had people hide the truth from me because they didn’t want to me to be hurt, yet everyone else knew. I just looked stupid for not knowing the truth, and I eventually did find out. I was even more hurt that people felt that they had to keep the truth from me and I felt betrayed by them. The truth always has a way of coming out one way or another. Maybe not right away, but eventually it does. So I think honestly is the best policy.
I want to be able to be honest with people without being afraid that they will think I am being too mean. I don’t want to feel as if I have to walk on eggshells around people so I don’t hurt their feelings. I want people to be honest with me too. I don’t want being to feel afraid that my feelings will be hurt by their honesty. Maybe being honest with people causes more complications than there needs to be, but I truly think it is the right thing to do. You should respect me enough to be honest with me.