Overcoming Heartbreak In Your Early 20’s

It may seem like the end of the world when you get your heart broken by someone you love and care about it. But what is really important is overcoming the heartbreak. It makes you stronger and a much more independent person. It may make you never want to trust a single soul again, because why would we want to go through that all over again? But the pain you feel when you get your heartbroken is only temporary. It comes and goes, like waves. You can be fine one minute and the next minute you’re crying over something so stupid that it actually makes you start laughing. All the moments with this person become just a distant memory and one day you will not even think of them anymore, and when this happens you’ll no longer feel the pain you’re experiencing now.

I’ve learned that heartbreak can almost make you feel like you aren’t good enough. But you are. It just didn’t work with that person because it wasn’t meant to be. And you should be happy that you found that out now while you’re still young. I always like to think when one door closes, another door opens. This is forever true in my mind. Something better is coming around the corner. I don’t mean another guy, (even though that may sound great) but something better will find you eventually. Just wait, but while you are waiting do yourself a favor and live your life. You’re only young once, as cliche as that sounds. Your 20’s are meant for you to explore. Try something new. Go to a place you’ve never been before. Be spontaneous. But most of all, learn from your mistakes when you make them, laugh a lot, take a lot of pictures, don’t have any regrets, and be young.

“The hardest thing to do is to accept why something didn’t workout, and realize something better will come”

When I was younger I always thought when I would hit my 20’s, that I would have my life together. I am now in my 20’s and I don’t have my life together at all. But I am somehow completely OK with that. I’m just spending these years figuring it out as I go. So here’s some advice: when you struggle or have a bad day or get your heartbroken, remember that life has a funny way of working itself out. Take a breath. And enjoy it. Don’t wish your life away. Enjoy the little moments.

In order to get over your broken heart you need to keep going. You can’t stop your life and what you are doing for someone who wasn’t worth your time in the first place. Keep your head high, put one foot in front of the other, and keep going. You will get through this. Of course you will be sad. Identify this sadness, but don’t let it bring you down. Don’t let it stop you from living your life. And most of all don’t let it change you. One of the worst feelings in the world is wanting someone who doesn’t want you. But don’t let that defy who you are.

Another piece of advice is give yourself time to heal. Don’t go in search for someone new. Someone will come along when you least expect it. You need time to heal, so you can fully allow yourself to move on.

And Lastly, don’t overanalyze everything. This will just make your life living hell. If you overanalyze every last detail of your relationship you’ll end up coming to the wrong conclusion about your relationship and can lead to an even bigger heartache. Let it go.



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