Dating in the 21st Century


“Dating” in the 21st century can be a struggle to say the least. People don’t go on dates anymore. We all know the term ‘Netflix and chill’, and most people joke about it, but that’s actually what our generation has come to. People would rather ‘Netflix and chill’ then go on a legitimate date.

Let me describe to you what I think a legitimate date includes. This is the most simplest date there could be.

  1. The guy picks you up from your house/apartment.
  2. The guy takes you to dinner.
  3. You guys have real conversations at dinner and don’t just sit on your cellphones the entire time.
  4. The guy drops you off at your house/apartment.

Don’t get me wrong I love watching Netflix. I binge watch Netflix more than anyone I know, but that’s not a date. I don’t want to just hook up. I want more than that.

In the 21st century we just “talk” to people instead of actually  dating. “Talking” averts you from actually having to commit to someone. This allows people to enter and exit your life whenever they feel like it, because “talking” isn’t dating. They don’t feel like they owe you anything. They feel like they can come in and out of your life whenever they feel like it.

Today’s dating is just a game. The person who cares less has all the power in your “relationship”. God forbid we actually show we care about someone now a days. Why are we so afraid to actually have feelings for somebody? Why is committing to ONE person a problem?

We are constantly glued to our phones. I’m not saying that I’m not glued to my phone, because I am, but today we feel as if we have to text 24/7. So much miscommunication happens because of texting. If he/she doesn’t reply to you then you automatically think you did something wrong. When this actually isn’t the case. Instead of having a fight in person, because we are too scared to actually face someone face to face we do it over texting. It shouldn’t be like this. I don’t want to fight over the phone. I want us to solve our problems in person.

“Talking” to someone causes so much confusion and a lot of unneeded drama when there doesn’t have to be. I’ve falling victim to the 21st century “dating” ways before, but I am done conforming to these standards. My previous relationship started off like this. We were just “talking,” and because of this there was so much confusion in our relationship. We never went on dates. We never did anything other than watch Netflix in my room after 10 p.m. Therefore ,I thought we were just “talking” and could talk to other people, when that actually wasn’t the case. I think we need to be more upfront with people. If you like me, tell me. If you want to date me, then take me on dates. Don’t beat around the bush. Don’t just want to come over after 10 p.m to watch Netflix. I am done conforming to the standards of 21st century dating.

21st century dating isn’t enough for me. I want more. I want to actually get to know you. I don’t want to hide that we are “talking.” I don’t want you to just come over at night. I want to go on dates that don’t just involve just watching Netflix. I want to do spontaneous things with you. I want to travel the world with you. I want to go on real dates and have real conversations that matter. I don’t want to play games. I don’t want to wonder what our relationship status is. I want all of you, not just half of you. I want to know everything about you. I’m not afraid to admit these things, and neither should you be.



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