A Thank You Letter To My Ex-Boyfriend

To the one who broke my heart and changed my perspective on love,

It may seem odd to you that I would thank you, but getting my heart broken by you has made me a strong independent person and I think I like her a lot better than when I was ever with you. I haven’t talked to you since things blew up in my face almost two years ago. I don’t know how you are or what you have been up to since we parted our ways, expect for the casual social media post I see now and then. I’ve been doing great, more than great actually. Every now and then I think about you, and how I’m actually happy things ended the way they did between us.

I’ll never regret our relationship. I’m happy things happened the way they did. The three years we spent together were a learning experience for the both of us. But I wanted to thank you, because you have played a big role in who I am today.

Thank you for all the pain you caused me, because It has made me a stronger person because of it. 

Of course when things ended it was almost unbearable, but because of it I grew into this strong person. You breaking my heart was one of the best things that could of happened to me. I’m so much stronger now. I don’t let people walk all over me anymore, and I’m more careful who I allow into my heart.

Thank you for becoming the asshole you are and cheating on me. 

I can’t believe I said those words, but it’s true. If that wouldn’t of happened we could of been stuck in that relationship, when I am so much better without you. It took you cheating one me to realize that, and I am so much happier now than I ever could of been with you. It also made me realize that even the one person you thought would never let you down, sometimes will. I now know that I have to be careful who I give my heart to.

Thank you for allowing me to see that there are better things in life.

We probably spent every waking second together. No that’s not your fault. It was probably more mine than yours, but after we broke up I became closer to my friends, made new friends, focused on school more, and I even studied abroad-something I probably wouldn’t of done if we were together. There are so many better things in life than our relationship. So thank you for allowing me to see that now.

Of course our relationship wasn’t all that bad. We were happy while it lasted, but some things aren’t meant to be. Like me and you. I remember being devastated after we broke up, but now I am nothing but thankful. I love the person I have become, and I don’t think I would have become her without you breaking my heart.

I hated you for awhile after we broke up, but that hate is gone now. And I honestly wish nothing but the best for you, and I hope one day you do find someone who makes you truly happy.

Love your thankful ex-girlfriend



One thought on “A Thank You Letter To My Ex-Boyfriend

  1. I love how positive you are about your previous relationship Lauren. I went through a very similar situation in my life that lasted almost eight years. Amazingly, that one relationship teaches us so much about ourselves, but the break-up really shows us who we are as people. I have learned so much about who I am as a friend, a lover and a family member by going through one of the most difficult break-ups a heart can imagine, as you clearly have too. I am impressed by how much wisdom you have gained about your life at such a young age! Keep that amazing attitude and that special love is sure to find you again!


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