“If you’re in love and you break up, where does the love go?” – Carrie Bradshaw
One of the things that I’ve always hated about breakups is that you’ll never be that same person you were when you were with them. I’m not saying after you breakup you change into this completely different person, but you were something unique when you were with them. You had a fire inside of you that grew and grew and grew for this person, but then the fire goes out after you breakup. And you are no longer that person anymore.
After you breakup you’ll never wake up next to them again. You’ll never wear their long t-shirt to bed anymore. There are a lot of things you’ll never do again with them, that you absolutely loved to do.
So if you’re in love with someone and you break up…where exactly does the love go? Do you stop loving them? Do you try to replace the love you had for them with something else? Someone else? Does love just eventually die out?
I don’t know the answer. I wish I did, but I do think as time goes on you eventually heal. Everyone is different. Everyone handles losing someone they love differently. I’ve always had a hard time handling losing someone I thought to be the love of my life, but after some time you move on.
I guess that’s the ultimate question. If you’re in love and you breakup where does the love go?
Sometimes it has be wondering if I ever loved them to begin with. I think you did love them, but you grow and mature and eventually you just aren’t in love with someone anymore or as much as you used to. I think there is a difference between ‘loving some’ and ‘being in love’. ‘
To me I’ll always care about the people I once was ‘in love’ with. No matter what they did to me. If they needed my help or needed someone to talk to I wouldn’t shut them out. I think that makes me the bigger person then telling them to go to hell (as much as I would like to). I’m just not that type of person. If you cared about someone as much as you said you did when you were together, you shouldn’t shut them out when they need your help. That’s my opinion on the matter. I’m not in love with them anymore, but I know I was at one point. And that matters to me.
“I will always care for you, even when if we’re not together, and even if we’re far, far away from each other.”
I guess I don’t exactly know where the love goes after you break up, but I do know that you can love again and lost love should make you stronger, not weaker. We lose ourselves when we lose things we love, but sometimes we can find ourselves too.
That’s what I did.