Why Slut Shaming Isn’t OK

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In 2016 the double standard between men and women is still there. Women aren’t allowed to show that they enjoy sex without being ‘slut shamed’ by men and even women. Men are allowed to sleep with as many people as like they, they can brag about it, and they aren’t made to feel ashamed. Unlike how women are. Women are taught that if you sleep with multiple people you’re a slut. Women are made to feel as if sex is bad and they should be embarrassed about having sex with “too many people”. This needs to stop.

I’ve experienced being ‘slut shamed’ first hand. I’ve have people who don’t even know me call me a slut. I don’t care what you heard about me. I don’t care what you think you know about me. It’s absolutely never OK to call a girl a slut.

Men can also talk to multiple women at the same time without question. I’ve had men do this to me. Men do this ALL the time, but when women do it they are sluts and are looked at poorly. I’ve experienced this as well. I tried talking to two guys at the same time and everyone acted like I was a horrible person. I even told the one guy that I wanted to talk to other people and if he wasn’t OK with it then he should stop talking to me. Did he stop talking to me? No. So when he found out that I HUNG OUT with another guy he decided it would be a great idea to post on social media screenshots of my text messages to him saying that I loved him and what not. These text messages were taking out of context but regardless, why can men talk to multiple women at the same time, but women can’t do the same thing without something like this happening to them. If this was the other way around and the girl posted screenshots on Instagram the girl would of been called crazy and other names I don’t even want to know.

Slut shaming can lead to men saying “she was asking for it”, as if what she was wearing that night really means that. I’m not asking for it because I am wearing a low cut shirt or a short skirt, but we live in world where people define women by what they are wearing or how they did their makeup. I once had a guy come up to me and tell me “I can’t wear red lipstick and not except a guy to try to take me home.” Obviously he thought this was a compliment. I obviously did not and was appalled by him.

Of course I agree not all men are like this. I understand that, but you also have to understand how many men ARE like this, but it’s not only men that slut shame women. Women slut shame women probably more than men do. Women call each other sluts all the time. I hear it everyday. STOP. Just because you heard she slept with someone does not make her a slut. You don’t know her and even if you do, it STILL doesn’t make her a slut.

Stop judging people you don’t even know. Stop slut shaming. 

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