Most people hate the idea of being single, because being single means we’re lonely and that you’re basically failing at life. To me, it doesn’t mean these things, but it wasn’t that long ago when I did feel like that. I guess you can say I’ve changed. I’m not the girl I used to be when I longed for a relationship. I’m happy being single. I’m not lying and I’m not just saying that to make myself feel better. It’s the truth.
So why am I happy being single?
First of all I’m happy with myself. I’ve come to realize that I don’t need to depend on someone else. Frankly, I don’t even want to depend on someone else.
I’m sick of playing games. Sometimes we get so wrapped up in someone that you don’t even realize where you stand with this person. I don’t want to have to guess what we are doing. Are we “talking” or not. I don’t want to find myself asking “What the hell are we doing?”.
I want to take time for myself. Most times being in a relationship means you spend most of your time with this person if you realize it or not. It may seem selfish to you that I want time to myself, but I want to spend the time I have to better myself- not on some guy that it probably won’t end up working out with. And I want to realize what I want before I can ever take the time on someone else.
I don’t want to stay in one place. After I graduate college in May I want to travel before I get a job in the real world. I don’t want to find myself feeling as if I shouldn’t go because I am in a relationship. I think a lot of people find themselves not doing the things they want because they are so preoccupied worrying about if their boyfriend will approve or not. Sometimes it’s okay to think about yourself.
Let’s face it. Sometimes dating around is actually fun. Whether the date (or night) goes amazing or horrible. There is always a good story to tell your friends and who doesn’t enjoy a laugh or two.
Being single used to mean nobody wanted you. Now it means you’re pretty sexy and you’re taking your time deciding how you want your life to be and who you want to spend it with.
– Sarah Jessica Parker